I read an article this morning from Andrea Conway, a law of attraction coach who shares a great perspective on LOA and how we can bring it into our lives, business, etc.  So this morning in her e-newsletter, she talks about how we can bring ourselves in better vibrational alignment with what we really want.  In her article, she suggested that like ordering a dessert, why would we order up a dessert from the menu of the universe and have it be something we don’t like?  She asks  “would you order strawberry rhubarb pie if you didn’t like it?”  Well, no..

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I love these kind of analogies because they make sense.  Our words, thoughts and desires are essentially placing vibrational orders to the universe, but then when the waitress comes, we want to send it back our order.  I’ve been there.  Andrea offers these thoughts, to help take ourselves off the hook.  She suggests we don’t really know we are doing it, it’s an unconscious thing:

It’s not always easy to accept that we’re vibrational matches to what we clearly do not want: a shortage of money, an illness, a difficult relationship. But denying our vibrational resonance to the situation only binds us to it more strongly.

If you can accept that whatever is in your life right now is a vibrational match to you, you’ve made a huge first step in using the circumstances you don’t like as springboards to something better.

So, I’m  taking a dose of this medicine right now in light of my new situation.  I will say that up to the point of my recent food allergy assessment, I had been ordering up (thinking, desiring) a way for me to make better food choices and help align my body with what it needs.  I also wanted to change my belief that weight loss is hard, and switch it around to weight loss is easy.  You know, challenging those limiting beliefs we hold, and cutting the polarization cord so I don’t keep bringing back situations I don’t want.

Andrea does offer some suggestions around acceptance which is the key to it all:

Acceptance is a way of pausing, clearing the slate, and starting afresh:

OK, universe, I accept that right now I am a vibrational match to these stale oatmeal cookies. But I declare that what I truly prefer to eat is the key lime pie.

The simple act of accepting what has happened and choosing again sets you on a new vibrational course.

Acceptance is a small step — so small that many people would dismiss it as too insignificant to matter. Yet, it is the entire key to shedding the resistance that binds you.

I guess I would have liked to “send back my order” of food allergies.  But as I’m accepting it all, I am noticing that there is no resistance, and weight loss is easier.  It’s just coming off, and I’m not thinking about it much.  I’m also not crazy hungry like I would be if I were “dieting” and thinking I could be having other things but I’m not.  The reality is, this is a new way of life.  It just is.  And by not fighting it, I’m gravitating toward re-discovering foods I have ignored or never had.

I like that part of it.  And I do feel better.  So, if I can realign myself there, where can I go next??   Seems like the field is wide open.

Have you experienced this before?

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This is a crazy time of year, life seems to be on warp speed around the holidays.  People drive more aggressive, Christmas lists gnaw the back of our minds (did I remember everyone??), and the Holiday Card lists linger as another thing to do before we celebrate.

But I do like to take this time of year to reflect back on how things went and see where I can make changes in 2009.  I set goals every year, and for the most part I do alright in meeting them.  But there are others that are more elusive and tend to stay on the list from year to year.  They include things like write a book, start up an online store, write in my blog daily (cough cough)…

But I do have a big finding this year.  The kind of finding that I think is pretty deep seeded,  and may have really big ripple effects moving forward.  So, my new realization is that I apologize alot.  I’m always saying “sorry”, even when I’m not really sorry.  I’m getting a bit irritated with myself.  Sorry, my cart is in the way; Sorry, you’re in my way;  Sorry, I’m next in line; Sorry, you dropped your pen; Sorry, Sorry, Sorry.  Being polite is one thing, this is entirely another.

What’s up with that? In fact, this is something that I do ALOT.  It’s really a bunch of nonsense and has to stop.  It’s almost like “I’m Sorry for being on this planet”.  Ummm, no, I’m really not.  And, I’m here to do some interesting things that require NO apology.

This all came to a head last week when I had a brief coaching session with Andrea Conway, who is very talented at lasering right in on a problem, no matter what direction I come at.  She helped me wake up a bit and recognize it for what it is, and what a huge blocker it is.

I think it started way long ago, back when I was a child and my brother (who I love dearly NOW) really didn’t appreciate my arrival into this world (as other sources say).  I spent alot of my childhood playing things down because I wanted his attention, and placated things so I could just get along in hostile territory.  Fast forward 40 years later, and I’m still apologizing for coming into the world.  Now that may be a big jump in logic, but I do find it interesting when I discover little things like this that end up being HUGE things to consider.  Things that have deep roots require a gentle, yet strong pull to get it all vs. rip it out like a dandelion and leave half the root in.

Now I’m onto this trend.  I was shopping this weekend and I noticed how many times my subconscious answer is “Sorry” or “I’m sorry”.  Now when I catch myself I feel myself getting pissed off that I was unable to stop my unconscious response.  My son has told me to stop saying that phrase when I’m driving and “motioning” to other drivers who are usually being complete idiots…they don’t deserve my apology for sure.

So 2009 is all about no apologies, no regrets.  I’m ready to move on.  It’s bagged and tagged.  All through.

I can’t wait to discover what else is in my deep dark closet of hidden habits that could deliver a new breakthrough.  I do think this is one of those discoveries that will continue to bear new fruits.  I have no idea how today, but the mystery is unfolding, and I look forward to sharing the insights here.

The soul excavation continues.   Until next time…