The Unraveling


Hello, yeah, it’s been a while.
Not much, how ’bout you?
I’m not sure why I called,
I guess I really just wanted to talk to you.
– Dan Seals

It has been awhile. I am glad to be back. While much has changed, much has stayed the same.  I’ve always shared things on this blog as a way to process change happening, and my intentions are to continue in that vein.

Good news is that my friend who became sick in the beginning of 2013 has recovered!  He is still being treated and watched over, but he is certainly in healthier place!  Praise God!

So, what is unraveling you might wonder?

You know, life can be like one of those strings on a cozy sweater.  One pull and all of a sudden, a gap opens up, but you can’t stop pulling at it.  So, you keep pulling and slowly, a pattern disappears.  Much like in life.  Sudden gaps, pattern releases, new openings.

The good news is my unraveling is just about over.  Some things that were in process are now final.  And there are still a few more things to settle out.

Things like:

My 20+ year marriage. Done. Sad but needed.  And a fresh start ahead.

My home. Going up for sale soon. And I have no idea where I’m going to live once it sells.

A new relationship. Also ended. Many lessons learned – especially a few hard  lessons I thought I learned from before but didn’t.  Humbling.

Some friendships. Shifted.  A couple have solidified.  A couple of new ones formed. And a few will never be the same.

My faith. Stronger than ever.

What does all this mean?  Nothing really, it is just where I am at.

Change is the only constant. And my reliance on my faith helps me  to take steps forward every day.

I’ve learned:

To take every day for what it is.

Bad/sad moods happen and do pass.

As much as it feels like something will never be over, it eventually will be.

True friends are revealed during tough times.  And those who are not also reveal themselves during those times.

Prolonged chaotic and stressful situations can push us out of character.  Be patient with yourself. And others.

Being a person who speaks the truth does not mean being brutally honest.  Sometimes its better to say nothing.

I look forward to continuing the full unraveling of my circumstances so I can let it all go once and for all. Oddly, I do feel that my life is very much in tact. And has a promising and fruitful future.  I am excited to be able to finally share that here.

As always, thank you for reading. I will be be back.



  1. Ara says

    hi J-

    Not sure what lead me to this page this morning, but I LOVE THIS!

    I do a lot of counseling with addicts and alcoholics, and if it’s ok, if love to use this as example of change.

    So well written!



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